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Staying Friends with Your Ex – Pros and Cons
Staying friends with your ex is one of those topics that always leads to a debate, because everyone sees it differently. We were reminded of this eternal topic by this article about contacting your exes. In this case, staying friends with your exes, or even contacting them, was obviously a bad idea.
So we decided to sum up all the most common pros and cons of staying friends with your ex. Whether you are swayed by the pros or the cons is up to you.
Staying friends with your ex – PROs:
- In addition to the sexual and emotional aspect, a relationship is usually based on many shared interests or passions. Just because the aforementioned aspects are no longer relevant to your relationship after breaking up, doesn’t mean you don’t still have a lot in common.
- Friendships, just like relationships, are valuable. If you have built a friendship AND a relationship, you shouldn’t just give the former up.
- As soon as emotions are out of the picture, your ex can become a valuable relationship consultant. Looking back, you can learn from your mistakes.
- You share a lot of memories. Sometimes it can be nice to take a walk down memory lane and remember the good times together.
- Surely you want to know what becomes of your ex after you break up.
- If you stay in touch with your ex, you stay in touch with his/her friends.
- Staying friends with your ex lets your new partner see what a good sport you are, even if things don’t work out.
- Maybe there’s still hope for the relationship. You can at least hope for the best.
Staying friends with your ex – CONs:
- A relationship makes you temporarily blind to a person’s negative personality traits. Now that the relationship is over, you ex suddenly isn’t quite as witty, charming and attractive as before.
- Friendships and relationships are valuable. That’s why you should concentrate on the relationships and friendships of the future, instead of wasting time on the relationships of the past.
- If you’re staying friends with your ex to get relationship advice, you will only get hung up on past mistakes, when you should be looking forward.
- Great memories get even better the farther away they move. False nostalgia, however, can easily lead to misled sex with your ex.
- There’s a thin line between natural curiosity and unhealthy obsession.
- Instead of staying friends with your ex, you can find time for your own friends again.
- Staying friends with your ex makes your new partner jealous. If you hope to achieve that effect, you’re being manipulative (but don’t let a new partner order you to stay away from you ex either).
- Maybe there’s still hope for the relationship – but pining after your ex is more desperate than romantic and rarely leads to a happy reissue of the relationship.
